Anonymous Poll 1

[Lilaena De'Ville]

I can't resist.

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DO NOT under any circumstances BREAK YOUR ANONYMITY! Feel free to comment all you like, but don't tell what you picked.

[Dasquian Belargic]

Ahh, a welcome return for the anonymous polls :eee

Here is a question: what do you think constitutes as "cheating"?

[Lilaena De'Ville]

Physical romance with a person while you are in a relationship with someone else. I believe.

[Droo]

How anonymous are these anonymous polls? Don't you admin types have an all-seeing eye or something? Foul play!

[Lilaena De'Ville]

Only admins can research who voted, and we all pinky swore not to. Well, two of us did, anyway.

[Dasquian Belargic]

I like the mystery of not knowing who voted what :D

[Morgan Evanar]

I'm too lazy to look and I don't care about this stuff anyway.

[Xel-Naga]

What an interesting poll subject.

[Loklorien s'Ilancy]

Anon polls remind of the Health Care episode of The Office for some reason.

[Ryan Pode]

Five of you are slutty mcslut bags. Can I say slut? Or am I going to be banned now? :uhoh

[Lilaena De'Ville]

Only one way to find out.

:ninja

[Dasquian Belargic]

Call me a slut and I'll ban you whore.

:shakefist

[Xavier Synik]

I voted Bacon.... :)

[Emelie Shadowstar]

You would. :p

[Dasquian Belargic]

Makin' bacon on the beach...

[Emelie Shadowstar]

Waffles!!!

...*school girl giggle fit*

[Dasquian Belargic]

Mmm sacrilicious

[Crusader]

Ok does cheating start by kissing someone or does it start when you have sexual intercourse. Or does it even start in your head?

[Dasquian Belargic]

I just don't know... :uhoh

[Ryan Pode]

You can look but you can't touch.

[Dasquian Belargic]

But what if I touch them in my mind? :uhoh

[Xavier Synik]

I think a kiss is alright... Multiple kisses leading to heavy petting, not so much.

and you can do whatever you want to do to them in your mind....

*waits for Pandora's box to open*

[Emelie Shadowstar]

Nah...I think that's just human nature, to be honest. lol

Acting on it and thinking about it are two different things...

I think. :uhoh

[Dasquian Belargic]

What if we are both thinking about it...? I mean, me and the person I'm thinking about, who isn't my partner?

[Emelie Shadowstar]

:uhoh Stop confusing me! Making my brain hurt!

[Dasquian Belargic]

What if we have psychic powers and are doing it in the astral plane?!

[Xavier Synik]

then your gods.... and screw the rules...

and if your both thinking about it, then it's fine... thinking is not touching...

[Ryan Pode]

No. Touching = cheating. Unless it's all them initiating, but you put an end to it quickly. You can think about it. I don't think any sane person just thinks about their partner.

[Xavier Synik]

The man speaks wisdom...

Of course this all a mute point if you happen to be in an open relationship...

[Dasquian Belargic]

Interesting results so far... a few people have cheated but even those few would not cheat again, given the chance.

[Ryan Pode]

Open relationships are a farce. Either you like them enough to want it to just be you and them, or you don't like them enough and shouldn't date. Threesomes are excluded though.

[Dasquian Belargic]

Well, that's all well and good if you believe you can only be interested in/have feelings for one person at a time. If you don't plan on commiting to marrying someone, I don't see why you can't see multiple people - so long as everyone involved is aware of the boundaries (or lack thereof) in your relationship.

v:)v

[Ryan Pode]

I guess it's intention. If you say you're in a relationship, call one another boyfriend/girlfriend whatever, then you're beginning the journey towards something serious. Having an "open" relationship is just indecision. If you can't decide to be with one person, don't be in a relationship.

[Dasquian Belargic]

It's got nothing to do with indecision. Just because your point of view is that monogamy is the desired end point of a relationship doesn't mean that it is. Maybe in your culture, having one partner is desirable and looked upon favourably - but don't pretend like it's the natural order of things, like we are 'supposed' to just be with one person.

[Ryan Pode]

I don't believe that a emotionally balanced person could be in a serious relationship with multiple partners. For the majority, modern society does not promote polygamy. Open relationships do not last. So yeah, if you are are in an open relationship, you're indecisive, incapable of settling down.

[Byl Laprovik]

Western cultures are generally in a minority in terms of numbers of cultures when it comes to monogomy vs permissable polygamy. While in the context of our western cultures it is pretty damn difficult to establish open relationships, it's certainly done by a lot of people. Heck, if you're going all anthropological and such, it's even desirable, though I think that sort of thinking takes a backseat to lots of other considerations.

For the record I am 100% on the monogamy train. I've never cheated before because that's pretty disrespectful. If I disrespect somebody enough to consider cheating on them, then why would I be with them?

[Travis North]

*waits for Pandora's box to open*
:lol :lol :lol

Best line I've read tonight.

[Emelie Shadowstar]

*waits for Pandora's box to open*
:lol :lol :lol

Best line I've read tonight.

...my slightly alcoholed brain is making that out to be very very dirty...

[Morgan Evanar]

I don't believe that a emotionally balanced person could be in a serious relationship with multiple partners. For the majority, modern society does not promote polygamy. Open relationships do not last. So yeah, if you are are in an open relationship, you're indecisive, incapable of settling down.There was a reason that many societies passed property through the women. Genetically, we are not naturally "monogomy based", especially as men. You might not know who your dad is, but you damn sure know who gave birth to you.

The vast majority of nature isn't. There are some notable exceptions, like some species of parrot.

[Cat X]

There was a reason that many societies passed property through the women.

Men used to die a lot earlier and in nastier, sudden ways than women. It has nothign to do with type of relationship, it was simly "Da bitch is gonna live a lot longer, cause she aint got a sword stick in her ass / down a coal mine / busting ass in a field / getting eaten by a tiger in reversal of fortune"


but don't pretend like it's the natural order of things, like we are 'supposed' to just be with one person.

Rubbish. Polygamy mainly came about because da DUDE carried a bigger sword / had more cash / was a bad ass and bought / slaughtered / told the weaker males to piss of leave ma hoes alone /ALLAH said so and thence he could more wives. There IS a predisposition for human molgamy due to the fact human children are the most difficult of any young to rear. A human is helpless for far, far longer and the family unit IS the best way to rear these annoying crotch droppings. Morover, monogamy is a lot more prevalent in the animal kingdom than people may realsie and life pairings arent unusal in Mammals, let alone the well known ones with parrots.

[Dasquian Belargic]

Men used to die a lot earlier and in nastier, sudden ways than women. It has nothign to do with type of relationship, it was simly "Da bitch is gonna live a lot longer, cause she aint got a sword stick in her ass / down a coal mine / busting ass in a field / getting eaten by a tiger in reversal of fortune"

"Trafficking women" has been common throughout our history and it has, for a long time, been a means of establishing social and economic connections between tribes/clans/families/whatever. Women were/are bartered with like sacks of grain. Instances of societies using 'bride prices', to effectively sell their daughters, can be found even in the Old Testament of the Bible. Marriage (and therefore monogamy), for the majority of history, has been nothing more than a business transaction, which love had no bearing on.

You're also assuming the natural existence of a patriarchal society in which the male is the main "bread-winner". Since you're keen on using animals as an example, let's take a peek at lions - where the female of the species is the main hunter in the pride.


Morover, monogamy is a lot more prevalent in the animal kingdom than people may realsie and life pairings arent unusal in Mammals, let alone the well known ones with parrots.

Birds are largely monogamous yes but the majority of mammals are not, especially not sexually monogamous. Rearing a child does not require monogamy. A "family unit" does not necessarily include just a mother and a father. Hey, guess what, I was only raised by one parent! I'm sure other people here were too.

[Crusader]

I think we are getting off-topic here...
I am pretty sure that women who live in a polygamous society feel cheated by their husband if he is having sex with someone outside of their ingroup.
...maybe we should discuss the different concepts of marriages and relationships in a different thread/poll.

[Rossos Atrapes]

Whoa whoa whoa! Cool down here, young'uns! This argument is gettin' a bit heated.

Cheating/Adultery is in my point of view not merely based on physical activity, but also mental. That isn't to say that one "cheats" when one thinks about it, but that one starts down that path when the idea isn't thrown out the door immediately. Thoughts like, "she/he's hawt," aren't necessarily cheating, as these are culturally and biologically ingrained responses to an attraction to someone.

But to continually hold onto that thought/lust while in a relationship with someone other than the one you are thinking of is quite nearly the same thing, in my opinion.

I won't go into the monogamy/polygamy argument, as my post would be entirely too long.

[Lilaena De'Ville]

Charley fails at the anonymity of this poll. :mad You are kissing any chance of your CT being restored good bye!